Do Christians live by too many rules? Rethinking Christian life restrictions
Christian life restrictions are the norm, right? The idea is that Christians have no fun, that faith piles rule after rule on our shoulders — a long list of do’s and don’ts. But Christianity is so much more than that, and living a Christian life can bring us true freedom. In this episode we explore those so-called restrictions and ask whether there’s any truth to the accusation that Christian life is nothing but rules.
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Those of us who call ourselves Christians do live by a right and a wrong. Through a formed conscience, we believe things are either one way or another — and many people consider that a form of restriction.
So the question comes: Why be a Christian? What’s in it for us? Why follow a list of do’s and don’ts when, some say, being a Christian is no fun?
Let me share the truth with you: being a Christian and living a Christian life is, in fact, freeing.
Right and wrong reveal a moral law
It always amazes me to hear people say there is no God because there is no right and wrong — that everything goes. When you get right down to it, that isn’t how any of us actually live. Ask a moral relativist, someone who insists there’s no right or wrong, whether they’d be fine with a burglar breaking in and taking their computer, money, and jewelry. They’ll say, “No. That isn’t fair. They broke the law.”
But how can you have laws — the laws of the land — and not have a moral law beneath them? What is the difference?
A film worth watching here is God’s Not Dead. The main character is a Christian college student in a philosophy class taught by an atheist professor. On day one, the professor requires every student to write “God is dead,” sign it, and turn it in, because he doesn’t want to deal with Christian arguments in his classroom. One student refuses to sign. The professor challenges him to use the coming weeks of class to prove that God is truly alive. One argument that surfaces is simple: rules serve us and protect us. They are not restrictive to those who are living rightly. They only restrict those who want to do what is wrong.
Christian life restrictions? No — it is a gift
For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; not as a result of works, so that no one may boast. For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them. — Ephesians 2:8–10 (NASB)
Through God we are saved, and this is an amazing gift. I’m not sure how anyone can call a gift a burden.
Here is how I’d sum up what our faith actually gives us:
- A gift
- A choice
- A blessing
- Freedom from sin
- Open gates of heaven
God gave us a choice and lets us make up our own minds — and yet many people stay firmly closed off in their beliefs.
Everyone lives under some restriction
If Christianity is “restrictive” because we don’t do certain things, then honestly everyone is under restriction in some way.
You can’t run a red light — not unless you’re willing to harm yourself or someone else. Freedom of speech doesn’t mean you can make a racist remark or defame someone (people try these days, but they shouldn’t). Our society has norms, and much of the dissension we see is those norms being pulled apart.
Just because I don’t agree with you, it does not make me wrong. There are boundaries built into our world. We can’t travel without a visa or passport, we can’t board without paying for a ticket, we can’t use a credit card without paying the bill. Our world — and, in essence, our lives — is bound by rules and regulations. So why shouldn’t faith also have some guidelines?
The commandments are guidelines that free us
When God handed down the Ten Commandments, He asked Moses to spread the Word. These are the guidelines we use to lead our lives, and they set us free — they bring us peace, joy, and happiness.
Like any good parent, our God watches over us. It’s striking that the same people who accuse Christians of living under restriction are often restrictive parents themselves. Would any parent let a child play in traffic, play with matches, or put their fingers in an electrical outlet? No — because of the danger of death. That parent isn’t being too restrictive. That parent is being loving. In the same way, we have a God who cares about us and wants us to have everlasting life.
We can never fully understand the mind of God. We come to know Him through reading the Bible, through our interpretation, and through allowing the Holy Spirit to enter our lives more deeply. Scripture does speak to how we should live, and we’ll dig into that in the next podcast.
Free will is the heart of it
In Mere Christianity — a book I recommend every Christian read — C.S. Lewis recalls that, as an atheist, he had built his case against Christianity on a set of ideas he later found to be false. One of them was moral relativism, the notion that there is no right or wrong. That is the crux of this: free will. We have the intellect to decide for ourselves.
Those who call Christianity too restrictive are sometimes the same people who want to defy what is good and holy. Others say Jesus was a good man but not the Messiah. But how can someone be good and a liar? Jesus said He was the Son of God. Either He is who He said He is, or He is not.
Freedom from all regulation does not, by itself, bring us joy. Giving children limits and rules is exactly what lets them flourish. Those who break the rules often find themselves in trouble, doing harm to their bodies, their souls, or both.
True freedom is knowing we are loved and loving others in return. The rules help us live lives that honor God and honor one another. What is wrong with You shall not kill? You shall not commit adultery? Honor your father and your mother? Love your neighbor? I think we’d all agree there’s nothing wrong with wanting to live the best lives we can.
The commandments themselves begin with God Himself:
- I am the Lord your God: you shall not have strange gods before me. (Exodus 20:2–6; Deuteronomy 5:6–10)
- You shall not take the name of the Lord your God in vain. (Exodus 20:7; Deuteronomy 5:11)
- Remember to keep holy the Lord’s Day.
God is love. As limited as we are in our own understanding — and in the human words we reach for to describe a Divine being — we know He saved us from eternal separation by sending His only begotten Son, Jesus Christ, to set us free, and the Holy Spirit to remain with us always. Eternal life is found in the true God alone.
Let’s pray
Dear Lord, I pray in the Name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. I thank You for the gift of freedom, the gift of free will, the gift of faith, and the gift of opening the gates of heaven through Your death and resurrection. Thank You for setting us free, for giving us a renewed gift of faith, and for allowing us to believe in Your Divine Providence for our lives and for our families. I am blessed that You have called me to live a life that honors You, and I can only do this by Your grace, so I pray for an outpouring of Your love and grace to fill me. Please, Lord, hear the petitions I now bring before You: ____________________. I ask that, as a community of believers — all those listening to this broadcast — we join together in prayer for one another and for our personal needs. I thank You for all that is good and holy, and I praise You with every breath I take. In Jesus’ Name I pray. Amen.
FAQ
Does being a Christian mean following a list of do’s and don’ts? No. While Christians do live by a sense of right and wrong, faith is far more than a rule list — it is a gift of grace that leads to true freedom, not a burden of restrictions.
Are Christians really restricted from having fun? Christian life restrictions are largely a misunderstanding. Like traffic laws or the boundaries any loving parent sets, God’s guidelines protect us and let us flourish rather than hold us back.
What does the Bible say about Christian freedom? Ephesians 2:8–10 teaches that we are saved by grace through faith as a gift of God, created for good works. The commandments are guidelines that bring peace, joy, and freedom.
Is faith just a set of rules with no freedom? The opposite. True freedom is knowing we are loved and loving others. The rules help us live lives that honor God and each other — the way limits help children thrive.




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