Love: Extended Family & Expectations

We’ve all been there: the family gathering that everyone expects you to be at, but most don’t love and everyone spends feeling awkward. How do we handle them?We’ve all been there: the family gathering that everyone expects you to be at, but most don’t love and everyone spends feeling awkward. How do we handle them?

To say we’ll never go again seems harsh and unloving.  To insist on our own way seems selfish.
And what about the kids- they are so bored every time.  Never enough to do, or getting into trouble, or the feeling that I have to watch them so closely, I visit with no one, so…why did I come to this?

And there’s the food we don’t like, the people that are awkward or ask uncomfortable questions, or the family drama that we wish we weren’t a part of but somehow can’t seem to ever avoid.

What’s a mom to do?

Today, I’ll talk about a couple ways we have saved our sanity over the years that you can apply to any situation you have going on this holiday season

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How we can show love to others by doing one simple thing before going to any event.

 

  1. Prepare your family to thrive.  Set them up for success.  Bring the things. Get clear on when you need to arrive and when you need to leave, talk about it, and then stick to it.

 

  1. Talk to your spouse and kids and get their feedback.  Do they love or hate this event.  Who is the person in the family that most wants to be there?  Who wants to be there the least?  What’s hardest about it?  What’s the easiest or most fun? Is there a key part where breakdown occurs?

 

How to show love to others:

Choose a way of being before you go. Have a physical reminder with you to help you remember during the event.

This helps by: Keeping Kindness in the forefront of your mind.

Reminds you of who you want to be.

Allows you to be an example to others.

 

What events have you got coming up where you can show love like you mean it?

 

 

 

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