How to Talk to Yourself

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How to Talk to Yourself. When most of us hear about communication workshops and the like, we immediately think of how to relate to others peacefully and effectively.  Would you believe that is actually the end point of communication, not the beginning? #MargaretVasquezs #GrowingVirtue #ModelofHonesty #Friends #GrowingCharitytoUprootGreed #UprootGreed #GrowingCharity #TipsforConnection #GreaterPeaceJoyandfreedom #Joyfreedom #MargaretVasquezs #GrowingVirtue #ModelofHonesty #Friends #HowtoTalktoYourselfHow to Talk to Yourself

How to Talk to Yourself. When most of us hear about communication workshops and the like, we immediately think of how to relate to others peacefully and effectively.  Would you believe that is actually the end point of communication, not the beginning?  Two critical steps come before speaking with others.  Without these two parts of the foundation, relating to others will only be so effective for so long.  These two essential ingredients are listening to the Lord and talking to ourselves with the same compassion He has toward us.

God is love and is all-good.  He loves us with a tenderness that is beyond our ability to fathom.  Yet, all too often, we agree with this truth intellectually but completely disregard it in practical application.  Remember that in the Scriptures, Jesus told us to love our neighbor as ourselves.  That means that loving ourselves is key.  Yet, to have any true and healthy idea of what love is, we have to look to Jesus, who is the image of the Invisible God.  I’m called to imitate Him in His compassion, patience, and understanding, even as I relate to myself.

Sadly, there was a time many, many years ago when spiritual writers would use the term ‘self-love’ to mean selfishness.  That was really unfortunate because there is a leftover attitude that it makes sense for Jesus to love me, but then I should go beat myself up in my thoughts and deeds toward myself.  Then, we expect to be able to love our neighbor well because somehow that is holier than being loving toward me.  It simply doesn’t work or requires an extraordinary amount of effort to make the constant mental shift from a negative, condemning voice that beats me up if I forget something but is patient with another person if they forget something or struggles in some way.

To believe that God loves me, I have to be living as though I love me.  Love doesn’t mean entertaining my every whim or desire.  We know the Lord doesn’t relate to us in that way, either.   It does mean that I can’t make a perfect performance, some sort of golden calf that I have to be a slave to to earn love.  If I do relate to myself in that way, the chances are I’ll relate to others the same way and may even begin to believe that is what God’s love is like.  That could not be farther from the truth.  His love is unearned and unchanging.  The power and strength of being loved give us the freedom and ability to hit the mark a little closer each time.

So, be compassionate when you’re going about your day and commenting to yourself on what you’ve done or how you’ve done it.  As you examine your conscience at the end of the day, don’t forget to affirm yourself for the effort you showed and how you responded to the Lord’s grace.  That isn’t pride; that is being loved to you as the Lord commands you.

May the Lord give you peace!


5 Steps to Emotional Healing

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Podcast #42

5 Steps to Emotional Healing

Emotional release is something that can be very powerful and ultimately life-changing but getting started is where most people get stuck. It does not have to be as scary as we might think and can be done in 5 simple steps.

Two amazing books to help you dig deeper into emotional release and healing are Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils by Carolyn L. Mein, D.C, and Feeling Buried Alive Never Die by Karol Truman.

* Note: the only essential oils recommended for emotional release are Young Living Essential Oils due to quality standards. Grab your oils here.

Clearing Emotional Patterns


Step 1 is to identify the feeling or emotion. This brings that feeling or emotion into conscious awareness.


Step 2 is that once we have identified the emotion and thought pattern that was created. Understand it and where it comes from.


Step 3 is to learn from this emotion or feeling. Let’s look at the other side or the positive emotion, which is the positive expression of that emotion.


Step 4 is it clear that emotion. This is the way out, which is a statement or affirmation that provides a way for us to shift from the negative emotion or feeling to a positive emotion or feeling. Remember the deeper the emotion is the more times it can take to clear it. Think of each emotion or feeling like a hole. If you have been digging that hole for years it will take more than one shovel full of dirt to fill it back in.



Step 5 is to release the emotion or feeling which no longer serves you. Place a drop of essential oil in your hand. Inhale the essential oil. Apply it to the alarm points or emotional points. The bottoms of the feel and ears are good places to use as a backup.

It is really that Simple!

It really can be as simple as:

  • I choose being (insert positive feeling/emotion)
  • I feel (insert feeling/positive emotion)
  • I AM (insert positive feeling/emotion)

Are you ready to let go of those emotions and feeling that no longer serve you? These emotions and feelings do not have to overtake your life. They can if you let them. Grab your oils and sit down in prayer and the Holy Spirit to help you release the feelings/emotions that no longer serve you and are holding you back from having the life that God has waiting for you.

As always, be grateful & have faith!

God Bless!